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Why Does Our Mind Work
Against Us?
Against Us?
We may live in the 21st century, but our brains is still the
same version as our great-great-great-great-great
grandparents (think caveman days).
Even though we have big goals (run a successful practice; be
fit and trim; increase revenue by 40%) our mind is just as
happy lying on the couch, watching the same movie for the
third time while eating a sleeve of chocolate chip cookies.
And the entire time we are thinking, "I should be out riding
my bike. I should be working on my marketing plan".
Why our thinking sabotages us?
As part of our survival mechanism human being are designed
to do whatever is necessary to avoid stress, minimize pain,
eliminate surprises, and resist change.
We have all heard the phrase "fight or flight". Our mind is
hard wired with this programming. At times this programming
causes us to lower our expectations, accept less from
ourselves, even stop us from getting into action. Why would
we do this to ourselves? The brain is interpreting the "fight"
for a new way of doing things as a threat because we are
changing comfortable behavior.
Your brain wants to keep you as your are because it is
familiar. Any change is scanned for danger and sensing this,
tries its best to steer you away from it. It's like an
overprotective parent who is constantly saying, :Be careful,
don't do that, you'll get hurt".
Awareness of negative self talk
As a Success Coach, I ask people to increase their awareness
of negative self-talk (that silent inner voice that creates
hesitancy, self-doubt, guilt, and worry) as a first step.
Researchers have found that up to 77% of our self-talk can
be negative. That's 46 minutes of every hour we are
criticizing ourselves rather than supporting our efforts!
This statistic is why I believe changing our self-talk is vital to
peak performance.
Here is a simple exercise to increase your awareness of the
sabotaging self-talk you may be using habitually:
get an index card and label the front "4 toxic words"
write the following words below the title: I should, I
shouldn't, I can't, Yes, but
on the back of the index card write a slash mark each time
you SAY or THINK one of these phrases in the next 72 hours
You will be amazed at how often these words show up in
your vocabulary.
The reason I pick these particular words is because this type
of thinking stifles you CHOICES. It limits your actions.
Once you hear one of these phrases you can then ask
yourself a double-check question. Is this true or am I making
it up?
Now you have choices.
Please contact me via email if you would like to discuss the
effects of negative self-talk on peak performance at
Lorri@YourDazzlingLIfe.com
About The Author:
Lorri Molinari, Success Coach, is the founder of Your Dazzling
Life, a company devoted to enhancing personal and
professional development by focusing on emotional
intelligence (interpersonal skills and leadership behaviors).
www.YourDazzlingLife.com or 303-680-0700.
same version as our great-great-great-great-great
grandparents (think caveman days).
Even though we have big goals (run a successful practice; be
fit and trim; increase revenue by 40%) our mind is just as
happy lying on the couch, watching the same movie for the
third time while eating a sleeve of chocolate chip cookies.
And the entire time we are thinking, "I should be out riding
my bike. I should be working on my marketing plan".
Why our thinking sabotages us?
As part of our survival mechanism human being are designed
to do whatever is necessary to avoid stress, minimize pain,
eliminate surprises, and resist change.
We have all heard the phrase "fight or flight". Our mind is
hard wired with this programming. At times this programming
causes us to lower our expectations, accept less from
ourselves, even stop us from getting into action. Why would
we do this to ourselves? The brain is interpreting the "fight"
for a new way of doing things as a threat because we are
changing comfortable behavior.
Your brain wants to keep you as your are because it is
familiar. Any change is scanned for danger and sensing this,
tries its best to steer you away from it. It's like an
overprotective parent who is constantly saying, :Be careful,
don't do that, you'll get hurt".
Awareness of negative self talk
As a Success Coach, I ask people to increase their awareness
of negative self-talk (that silent inner voice that creates
hesitancy, self-doubt, guilt, and worry) as a first step.
Researchers have found that up to 77% of our self-talk can
be negative. That's 46 minutes of every hour we are
criticizing ourselves rather than supporting our efforts!
This statistic is why I believe changing our self-talk is vital to
peak performance.
Here is a simple exercise to increase your awareness of the
sabotaging self-talk you may be using habitually:
get an index card and label the front "4 toxic words"
write the following words below the title: I should, I
shouldn't, I can't, Yes, but
on the back of the index card write a slash mark each time
you SAY or THINK one of these phrases in the next 72 hours
You will be amazed at how often these words show up in
your vocabulary.
The reason I pick these particular words is because this type
of thinking stifles you CHOICES. It limits your actions.
Once you hear one of these phrases you can then ask
yourself a double-check question. Is this true or am I making
it up?
Now you have choices.
Please contact me via email if you would like to discuss the
effects of negative self-talk on peak performance at
Lorri@YourDazzlingLIfe.com
About The Author:
Lorri Molinari, Success Coach, is the founder of Your Dazzling
Life, a company devoted to enhancing personal and
professional development by focusing on emotional
intelligence (interpersonal skills and leadership behaviors).
www.YourDazzlingLife.com or 303-680-0700.
By: Lorri Molinari
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